What we actually are finding now is that it’s not so much us being able to put our foot on the gas. It’s actually, how do we take our foot off the break? And that is a little bit more nuanced because for different people, it’s gonna be different things.
Given that, one of the easiest ways to start working out what kinds of things help you take your foot off the break, Cyndi said, is to reflect back on times you’ve had sex that have been fantastic
And by ‘sex,’ she means anything from a good make out session or oral or a great hand session or intercourse – the whole spectrum of sexy fun.
What’s made it fantastic. And I can almost guarantee it wasn’t the positions that you used. It wasn’t Necessarily, you know, what you were wearing, but more than anything, it’s gonna have something to do with the context in which the sex happened.
So what was happening before and during, and perhaps even after, and also it’s gonna have to do with how you felt about yourself. And how you felt about your partner at the time. So that could be things like that you were feeling confident.